tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post8200884476968789345..comments2024-03-27T19:48:03.918-04:00Comments on EC Stilson's: Negative Effects of Writing MemoirCrazy Life of a Writing Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16064939499412649850noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-69551221003366843342012-10-25T17:19:54.160-04:002012-10-25T17:19:54.160-04:00Tell it like is it...or how it was to you. Percept...Tell it like is it...or how it was to you. Perception of how something happened, the way it was said, or meant, or even the way they acted is usually different for everyone. To the apologetic bunch, kudos. To the people trying to save face, or would that be save ink?! either way, get over it. Write what you love, love what you write, don't stop doing what you do because people can't handle the truth. :) Kelly Seguinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18357981338405867140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-21466001363250078532012-10-25T04:54:17.960-04:002012-10-25T04:54:17.960-04:00Most people don't like when the truth is told....Most people don't like when the truth is told. I do like the fact that some of them are appologizing to you, but those who aren't - that's their problem. I think you should keep writing whatever you want :) Your stories are always amazing and full of fun. Don't stop because some people can't handle the truth :)Baibahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08910099607668121369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-10358422284499935132012-10-25T02:35:37.981-04:002012-10-25T02:35:37.981-04:00Exposing ones self to the judgement of others, yeh...Exposing ones self to the judgement of others, yeh that's hard. But for me the real hard part is exposing others to the judgement of others. It's a balance of delicate needs. To be true to the story first and for most. To say what needs to be said to make the point, and to do so with out doing damage to the truth. On the other hand wanting to be fair to others to be protective of feelings. But in the end it all comes down to the story.. Art in all forms is a passionate but cruel pursuit. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02718129614173182535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-43833683848583211462012-10-24T21:32:09.744-04:002012-10-24T21:32:09.744-04:00I do not have passive children. You are sweet, but...I do not have passive children. You are sweet, but definitely not passive. You are sweet and strong. We can't avoid writing the truth, even if we try to transform it into fiction. Carry on, Middle Child!<br /><br />Love,<br />JanieJanie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-10615208041108584542012-10-24T20:54:18.584-04:002012-10-24T20:54:18.584-04:00What is the motivation behind these people being u...What is the motivation behind these people being upset that you're writing about them? If they're being decent human beings, then you'll write about that. If they're being wretched a-holes trying to pass themselves off as decent human beings, you're going to tell the truth and write about that too. Don't you dare censor yourself for them!Vapid Vixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08699876620805731017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-3110949561970666142012-10-24T20:31:49.353-04:002012-10-24T20:31:49.353-04:00I tell everyone they'll likely end up in my bl...I tell everyone they'll likely end up in my blog. Well, everyone that knows about it anyway. Tony actually TELLS me to write about stuff in my blog... usually about him, his boyish charm, his manly ways. I tell him that no one wants to hear about that stuff. :)<br /><br />Youngest has had to write his personal memoirs as his writing assignments this year. We are singing the praises that this part of his unit is done, because there is something about painstakingly revealing his thoughts and feelings on paper (good and bad) that is worse than death for him. Julihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10097214923216967086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-69255984045931139512012-10-24T20:14:13.548-04:002012-10-24T20:14:13.548-04:00I enjoyed reading about Zeke. It did help me unde...I enjoyed reading about Zeke. It did help me understand what Maria went through when she lost her son Robert. Thanks so much for writing The Golden Sky.Rachelle21https://www.blogger.com/profile/08399575958763103513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-15887219983958050452012-10-24T15:58:57.281-04:002012-10-24T15:58:57.281-04:00I suppose being a writer you will pick up and use ...I suppose being a writer you will pick up and use things that you hear people say, all writers probably do this. People shouldn't get so bent out of shape when you use their words in your work. I'd be flattered.Tony Van Helsinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08879258913766153068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-89318523110575754472012-10-24T15:00:01.132-04:002012-10-24T15:00:01.132-04:00Writing the truth may be tough but you made Zeke&#...Writing the truth may be tough but you made Zeke's story pure and real by the honesty of it all. Everyone says things they regret, even if some won't admit it, but hopefully the majority learned from it and maybe those who won't admit it, might still think twice before they speak again. Accountability isn't a bad thing, and honesty is even better! Don't change a thing about you!Padded Cell Princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04179138500397929437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-3460074149508360542012-10-24T12:52:20.806-04:002012-10-24T12:52:20.806-04:00You have to tell your story as you see it. But it ...You have to tell your story as you see it. But it is good to remember that the 'truth' is almost never one-sided ...The Broadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04976467218216864644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-66874762995499582892012-10-24T12:09:41.544-04:002012-10-24T12:09:41.544-04:00We've already discussed this--tell it like it ...We've already discussed this--tell it like it is!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-64320576441489520612012-10-24T11:55:27.148-04:002012-10-24T11:55:27.148-04:00I think your honesty is awesome. Don't let tho...I think your honesty is awesome. Don't let those negative people get you down. Tell your story. It's yours to tell. Alyssahttp://www.alyssareyans.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-57674202576883579772012-10-24T10:53:21.406-04:002012-10-24T10:53:21.406-04:00I love the cartoon, where the mom is at the book s...I love the cartoon, where the mom is at the book signing saying, "But if we had known you were going to grow up to be a writer, we'd have done things differently."<br /><br />I don't write memoir, but then I find I did anyway. My fantasy novel, set in another world, had so many friends saying, I remember when that happened. My Mom said, "I saw you on every page."<br /><br />I think when we write a story that truly no-one else can tell, it is always going to end up being memoir.<br /><br />Dixie Miller Goodeechohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05161069949227164302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-61149620713455013182012-10-24T10:32:40.994-04:002012-10-24T10:32:40.994-04:00Elisa! Hello! Its been a while since I've visi...Elisa! Hello! Its been a while since I've visited here, but I've been watching you rise from afar. I'm so proud of your success and remember the time we found each other on a blog hop!<br /><br />When my dad passed, I clearly remember the behavior of my estranged brother, his wife and her sisters at my dad's funeral. Their behavior and words have become an unwanted part that during that vulnerable time. Their attitude was deplorable. Should I write a memoir about my experience during that time, it certainly wouldn't be complete, factual and honest if I left that out to spare feelings....<br /><br />If you said it and did it, you should own it. It's called accountability. Otherwise the old adage should apply..."If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all." <br /><br />Keeping quiet and your behavior respectable in times of mourning has its value and benefits. I would think no one would want to become apart of another's memory in such a negative light...besides, you NEVER know if someone has a crazy talent for writing. :) <br /><br />God bless you Elisa! May you continue to shine like the star you are. <br /><br />Hannah NebulaOdehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410354504216061963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-84021501671021832062012-10-24T10:09:08.055-04:002012-10-24T10:09:08.055-04:00Screw it, tell it like it is and see what happens ...Screw it, tell it like it is and see what happens when all is done haha it is not like you are going out of your way to make anyone the bad guy or anything. They are the ones they did what they did, plus it beats showing their naked rearend this size of Milwaukee on Youtube or something LMAOPat Hatthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07745293224202430152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-41422153461867180542012-10-24T09:15:30.330-04:002012-10-24T09:15:30.330-04:00Dear Elisa, Dee again. One more thought--much of t...Dear Elisa, Dee again. One more thought--much of the telling and having what we say accepted is in the way we tell it and the way we show how what was said or done affected us. Peace.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-74818380256232627772012-10-24T09:14:42.505-04:002012-10-24T09:14:42.505-04:00Dear Elisa, I once read a memoir by a famous write...Dear Elisa, I once read a memoir by a famous writer and he said that all of life--his life and the life of those he'd met--was grist for a writer's manuscript. For myself, I believe that we must decide what is so important to us--friendship or love or whatever--that we would not share it with others. But beyond that, we need to be true to the vision we have for any given manuscript. Or so I believe. Peace.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.com