tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post4694302954241658264..comments2024-03-27T19:48:03.918-04:00Comments on EC Stilson's: The Scribe Plays "The Happy Game"Crazy Life of a Writing Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16064939499412649850noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-73100435068306072432012-01-22T06:19:17.454-05:002012-01-22T06:19:17.454-05:00I have some idea of what the Scribe might be going...I have some idea of what the Scribe might be going through. Nothing like this happened to me in school, but I was bullied and I didn't have many friends, and some of the few I had, I bent over backwards trying to not fall out with them and gave in to anything they wanted, for quite a long time before I finally realised they weren't really friends.<br />It can be really hard for a kid - especially a girl: girls bullying girls are often incredibly hurtful but really cunning and it's hard to even be sure you're being bullied, let alone explain what's going on.<br />At the same time, most young bullies are just too immature to deal with other people properly, and a lot of them are taking out their own problems. I hope the other girl isn't a terrible situation.<br />If I may give some advice, it's not to tell a child to try and 'fit in'; I got that, and I tried to follow it. It just made me miserable and played right into the hands of the bullies. Even amongst kids, there are other people who will accept you for who you are, and you are better off not trying to hang around with people who won't.<br />Also, never give any child that cr*p about 'Sticks and stones...'. The pen is mightier than the sword for a reason and telling a kid they ought to be able to ignore anything bad unless it's physical is just telling them they ought to feel bad and inadequate for being so pathetic as to be hurt by the most powerful weapons humankind has to hurl at each other.Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11406849127208192970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-76278182408365961322012-01-20T12:28:17.589-05:002012-01-20T12:28:17.589-05:00Dear Elisa,
I'm so glad you called Fishducky a...Dear Elisa,<br />I'm so glad you called Fishducky and got good advice. Now I'm eager to read just what that advice was. I find myself appalled that the principal questioned the Scribe for so long without you being present. And like "Susan Kane" I fear what might be happening to the Scribe's friend.<br /><br />Peace.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-12948698203207178842012-01-19T23:12:33.218-05:002012-01-19T23:12:33.218-05:00I can't wait to find out how this all ends! T...I can't wait to find out how this all ends! The scribe is lucky she has such a nice and smart mom. I am sure it was a big burden off her shoulders to know that she could talk to you. She sure does know how to look at the bright side!Jess@The Secret DMS Files of Fairday Morrowhttp://thesecretdmsfilesoffairdaymorrow.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-76381529912993524742012-01-19T22:35:26.896-05:002012-01-19T22:35:26.896-05:00Jax and Pat are correct--to question a child at le...Jax and Pat are correct--to question a child at length requires parents to be present. I cannot help wondering what her 'friend' has been experiencing. I fear the worst. I am looking forward to reading Fishducky's advice, and getting some closure. Bless that little Scribe.Susan Kanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834094675218254410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-33248690789655017382012-01-19T22:31:28.137-05:002012-01-19T22:31:28.137-05:00I can't believe they took your daughter out of...I can't believe they took your daughter out of class and questioned her and other for a couple hours and didn't even bother to inform you! They weren't too busy for that.<br /><br />I guess I was probably very annoying when I was a kid (and still am to many, I imagine). If I had to pay the price for what I did wrong, I expected others to pay the price, too. I may not have been a tattler, but I'd convince people to make their own confessions--no lie! LOL! You get a reputation like that and you can rest assured no one is going to ask you to steal cars or cheat on tests or lie for them. Made life easier all around for me to live my life up front, I guess. And I found out that if you openly told the good, bad, and the ugly about yourself you become very boring to people who love to gossip or backstab because you already told the worst yourself and you would just laugh about or accept the repercussions of your decisions and choices, anyways...and worry about the soul of the backstabber--ROFL!! I was a weird kid.<br /><br />I'm sure she realizes now that friendship should never have to be proven by expecting someone to do something they shouldn't. Prove you are my friend and break this rule or this law...not good. A real friend should have your best interests at heart. Hard lesson learned for The Scribe, but I bet she doesn't forget it.<br /><br />Now I'm waiting to see what happens next!! :)Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02043285884495492598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-59467013599003299712012-01-19T20:48:13.212-05:002012-01-19T20:48:13.212-05:00I would be angry about this too - for multiple rea...I would be angry about this too - for multiple reasons. But what stands out most for me is the lousy job the school is doing at prioritizing communication between the school and the parents. Shame on them!<br /><br />The Scribe sounds like a real little dear. Good for her for finding positives in this!Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17044224027343776064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-60697936179030461912012-01-19T20:39:31.281-05:002012-01-19T20:39:31.281-05:00I can not believe there is a principal that won...I can not believe there is a principal that won't see a parent when they ask. Period. What the he11?Julihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10097214923216967086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-613048739659856932012-01-19T20:20:17.929-05:002012-01-19T20:20:17.929-05:00To be continued again!?!? You're killing me Sm...To be continued again!?!? You're killing me Smalls! Looking forward to the next part (hopefully I'll be reading it from my laptop. Seattle's Snowpocolypse 2012 has knocked out the power in surrounding cities, mine included. So I'm typing this from my Nonni's computer, where there is power :))<br /><br />At first I thought the Scribe's account had been hacked and it was spam being sent. That can happen to anyone. It's happened to me at least once. I guess I misunderstood or you didn't explain it clearly. Anyway, I'm glad everything worked out though her school sounds a bit disorganized to have not called parents then to not be able to talk to the mother of the innocently accused. Can't wait to see Fishducky's idea!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-76330844644918288412012-01-19T19:20:40.657-05:002012-01-19T19:20:40.657-05:00I am so glad no balls were involved. I am with yo...I am so glad no balls were involved. I am with you though, I am usually a doormat, but when it comes to my kids....ummm...touchy touchy. <br /><br />Hey how come I can't friend you on FB?ThaiHoa Burroughshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12905349539254798760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-71994049230254403182012-01-19T18:40:21.212-05:002012-01-19T18:40:21.212-05:00I would have busted some balls too. I'm readin...I would have busted some balls too. I'm reading "nonviolent communication" right now, if that tells u anything...Jamie Barnardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02194436682691094209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-60693428832203131822012-01-19T18:14:27.486-05:002012-01-19T18:14:27.486-05:00Gripping. However, at the the risk of getting on y...Gripping. However, at the the risk of getting on your bad side (especially after the beautiful comment you left on my post) I know from professional experience that school staff are severly stretched and upset parents turning up out of the blue don't always get granted immediate access to the head teacher. I am not belittling your strength of feeling when defending your daughter. I'm looking forward to seeing how this ends.Tony Van Helsinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08879258913766153068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-45587628230793155262012-01-19T16:42:05.333-05:002012-01-19T16:42:05.333-05:00The way you tell stories is legendary!The way you tell stories is legendary!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-17684642035305138222012-01-19T15:48:16.061-05:002012-01-19T15:48:16.061-05:00Elisa! you're killing us with these "to b...Elisa! you're killing us with these "to be continued..." endings! It's like a book addiction you just can't quick, but you ever need MORE and MORE! <br /><br />You know I honestly can't believe you have a school like that! So busy that the principal can't take a minute to talk to a parent? I'm so sorry! I'm so grateful that I've always been able to go into my children's schools and say, "I need to talk to the Principal" and either be able to talk to them within 5 minutes or if they were in a meeting, been told a time when they'd be out of the meeting and i could walk in and talk to them at that time...and I have. <br /><br />I wasn't a big fan of my kid's principal back in Kansas, but she did her job, and was available if a parent needed an issue resolved. <br /><br />I absolutely LOVE our Principal here in Idaho. He's always available for the parents, and gets to know each student by name and is very involved in the school and community. If my kids ever got called into the school for an issue, I would be notified, and I don't think it's outlandish for you to require the same thing from your school, I don't care how "busy" they are. <br /><br />Oh my goodness, I see my Mother coming out in me, but seriously they should not have the right to put you off like that, and for an issue so serious! By law, they should not be able to question your child like that without your permission! I don't know, maybe the laws are different where you are. /sigh. I'm all upset. If I was in your area, I'd march into the school and make a big fuss. <br /><br />You are absolutely right, they can't walk over you! They interrogated your child! You have the right to be notified and to be able to tell them off for not notifying you! Actually they should have gotten your permission FIRST. I seriously think they are violating a law! <br /><br />I can't wait to see what Fishducky said!<br /><a href="http://www.jadelouisedesigns.com" rel="nofollow">JadeLouise Designs</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15749906092285024917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-4105811378175978072012-01-19T15:46:44.507-05:002012-01-19T15:46:44.507-05:00And I'm sorry to be pissy but Pollyanna played...And I'm sorry to be pissy but Pollyanna played the Glad Game.Janie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-90189421989318495702012-01-19T15:46:03.424-05:002012-01-19T15:46:03.424-05:00I could be a nasty bitch with people who mistreate...I could be a nasty bitch with people who mistreated my kids, but I couldn't stand up to my own husband when he mistreated me. What the hell is wrong with me? And now I've ruined a possibly excellent relationship by insisting on telling the truth about an unimportant detail, and the man said, How can I ever trust you again? <br /><br />It was because my husband beat it into me that I had to tell the complete truth about everything and now what I wanted so badly is gone.<br /><br />JanieJanie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-86421919956956539752012-01-19T15:42:19.432-05:002012-01-19T15:42:19.432-05:00Damn you for making me wait and damn them for doin...Damn you for making me wait and damn them for doing that to our darling girl. Something similar happened to my daughter once. I reported a bus driver for doing something she shouldn't have and my six-year-old daughter was called into the assistant principal's office. The woman managed to convince the hurricane that she had imagined what had happened on the bus. I reassured my child that it wasn't her imagination, that all the kids had said the same thing about the bus driver, and then I dressed up in my best clothes the next morning, marched to the assistant principal's office and walked right in and gave her holy bloody hell.I ordered her to never speak to my child alone again. Goodness. That woman was so polite to me after that.<br /><br />Love,<br />JanieJanie Junebughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10573607241326291404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-78673399138004991222012-01-19T15:04:27.941-05:002012-01-19T15:04:27.941-05:00I am still pretty mad that they felt they could qu...I am still pretty mad that they felt they could question your child about something so serious without a parent around. That would have my blood boiling. You are way nicer than I am, I would have walked past the secretary and headed into the office anyways. If I have time to come down to your office, then you have time to talk to me!Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07588737236494064981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-47499931995507502152012-01-19T14:06:25.063-05:002012-01-19T14:06:25.063-05:00First off, I can't believe you actually gave a...First off, I can't believe you actually gave a guy a bloody nose!!! Craazzzyyy haha<br /><br />They should not have been allowed to question your daughter that long without contacting the parent. I'm sure there are some legalities against it let alone it being ethically worng. She's a minor... Sigh...Jaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942630725082121374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-53423577953003653802012-01-19T13:57:40.075-05:002012-01-19T13:57:40.075-05:00I just wanted to cry for you and your daughter. Wh...I just wanted to cry for you and your daughter. What a doll she is! My thoughts and prayers are with you both. And, for the record I'm impressed that you were able to control yourself in the office, I fear I would have thrown something!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09107661365906909620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-50494920822770674772012-01-19T13:17:11.630-05:002012-01-19T13:17:11.630-05:00At last--a two part post where I know what happens...At last--a two part post where I know what happens in the second part in advance! I'm glad that I was able to help. (Don't forget, the advice I gave you also came from Bud.)<br /><br />I love your "happy game" & the story you told the kids about Luna. You, my friend, are one AMAZING mom!!!fishduckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07334973392362918928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-83781369118156002522012-01-19T13:03:31.621-05:002012-01-19T13:03:31.621-05:00Can't wait to hear what Fishducky came up with...Can't wait to hear what Fishducky came up with! It's so great you could call her!Padded Cell Princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04179138500397929437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-54081154359861067422012-01-19T12:37:52.210-05:002012-01-19T12:37:52.210-05:00I love the happy game. And your kid is so smart an...I love the happy game. And your kid is so smart and loyal, just like you :) <br /><br />and can they even do that? -question kids about serious stuff without telling their parents? that's just not right. <br /><br />can't wait for next part. :)Baibahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08910099607668121369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-86669445672345004582012-01-19T12:23:28.401-05:002012-01-19T12:23:28.401-05:00Having both worked in education and also having 2 ...Having both worked in education and also having 2 special needs kids in a school district that would sooner do the cheap thing than the right thing, my advice for getting things done is simple: the squeaky wheel gets the grease. <br /><br />Make a nuisance of yourself (albeit not the point of being arrested). Call every hour on the hour. Show up several times a day. Send as many emails as you can type...CC the superintendent on every one. <br /><br />It stinks but often times the best way to get to the front of the line is to establish yourself as that "crazy parent who won't go away". I've seen it done several times. We've done it ourselves. It works.Rick Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07703091917685458099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-79431450696081037062012-01-19T12:20:34.594-05:002012-01-19T12:20:34.594-05:00There's a difference in being a pansy and bein...There's a difference in being a pansy and being nice E. You are just nice. No wilting flower for you. When you told me this the other day I was about to meet you at that freakin principals office. Still think you should have hyped the babies up on sugar and let them loose in the office till they came and talked to you. It wouldn't have taken long. lol<br />I did that with the AC guys years ago with Kyle and two of his little 5 year old ADHD buddies. My AC got fixed REAL quick.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2873393837725772745.post-19612394993363680562012-01-19T11:36:12.504-05:002012-01-19T11:36:12.504-05:00Another great story EC. Okay, I'm hooked. I ...Another great story EC. Okay, I'm hooked. I am also ready to give that unprincipled principal a piece of my mind.<br /><br />The other EE. Van Lowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01939506547605827850noreply@blogger.com